The 5 most common mistakes singles make when dating online

Do better than millions of other singles around the world and avoid the typical mistakes that singles make every day on dating sites.

Dating sites have been around for almost 30 years. That's how long people have been trying to fall in love online. Has there been any recognisable progress among users? Unfortunately, not that much. Most singles are still making the same mistakes they made back in 1998.

This is quite understandable, as new singles are constantly trying their luck on dating sites for the first time and are therefore starting from scratch in terms of their experience.

We want to make sure that your online dating experience is a positive one and therefore ask you to avoid the five most common mistakes as much as possible!

1. You have too high expectations

Of course, we can understand that with all the advertising promises, your hopes of making new acquaintances - preferably within an hour - are high. However, we would ask you to approach the whole "online dating" project with a great deal of composure. After all, you are not ordering "products" like on Amazon, you are dealing with real people!

You get the chance to meet someone, have the opportunity to go on dates and fall in love. However, many singles have expectations that are too high and too specific:

Petra Frömsdorf
Expert since 2011
Looking for man, 1,90m, brown hair, shaved, humorous, earns a lot of money, is popular, must want children...

As a result, many potential partners do not fulfil your criteria and fall through the cracks. You realise that there aren't that many suitable partners and conclude that online dating can't work.

That's why we would like to advise you: Give love a chance and set your criteria less strictly. We are all not perfect and yet we are just as good as we are.

Get involved with other people and leave your comfort zone!

2. You don't know what you actually want

This brings us to the exact opposite. Many singles register on several dating sites, pay and have no idea what they actually want. Before you sign up anywhere, you should first determine what your intention is:

  • Do you want a serious relationship?
  • Or just flirt to your heart's content?
  • Or intimate meetings without obligation?

If you are aware of this, you can more easily find dating portals that meet your needs.

3. You provide false information in your profile

Of course we all want to look our best. Who voluntarily reveals their weaknesses? Probably nobody.

However, this can be a serious problem in online dating. In the case of minor lies about hobbies, this can certainly be argued away.

But if you cheat on your age, height, weight and profile picture, this will be discovered on the first date at the latest...

Remain authentic, just as you expect your counterpart to be.

4. You have chosen a bad profile picture

Nowadays you can take perfect photos with the great smartphone cameras. Unfortunately, this is not reflected in the photo galleries on the dating sites. We keep coming across bad pictures in sometimes unbelievable poses. 

Remember: A picture says more than 1000 words. Choose a profile picture that portrays you in a likeable and positive way. What doesn't work: Group pictures, revealing pictures or pictures in which you are drunk. 

5. You are very impatient

Many singles expect a dating service to deliver instant results. Of course, this can be the case, but it doesn't have to be. Sometimes it simply takes time for dates or even relationships to develop. That's why you need to be patient when it comes to online dating so that you don't give up in frustration.Wir hoffen, dass wir Ihnen einen kleinen Einblick über die No-Gos der Online-Dating-Welt geben konnten.


If you find yourself in one or the other point, you can correct your behaviour directly and thus drastically increase your chances!

Good luck finding a partner on the Internet!

Now it's your turn! Try your luck on the best dating sites:








Petra Frömsdorf
Petra Frömsdorf
Petra has been monitoring the Australian world of online dating sites since 2011. In the media it is considered the leading expert on the topic of "online dating".